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DRINK COMES FIRST

I love my wonderful partner but I can’t cope with his heavy drinking

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner is a heavy drinker and every time I smell alcohol on him, it sends my anxiety into overdrive.

I was a single parent for ten years after my divorce. My daughter is now 13 and I met a lovely man last year via my meditation group.

My partner's drinking has got worse in lockdown and I can't cope with it
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My partner's drinking has got worse in lockdown and I can't cope with itCredit: Getty

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I am 39 and he is 43.

He admitted he had a problem with alcohol that nearly killed him and asked me to help him get sober. I was happy to.

He went to AA meetings and everything was great for six months but he relapsed and has not recovered.

I broke up with him but we’re trying again, though he’s admitted he never wanted to give up drinking and only did it to keep me happy.

We don’t live together and his drinking got worse in lockdown.

My friends say I deserve someone so much better but he’s the nicest man I’ve ever met when he’s sober.

DEIDRE SAYS: Only he can decide to get sober and only you can decide if the happy moments when he’s not been drinking outweigh the worry and unhappiness the rest of the time.

Factor in the effect on your daughter of you being so stressed.

My e-leaflet Dealing With A Drinker can help you decide.

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