DEAR DEIDRE: I CAN’T resist my wife’s sister and we keep ending up in bed. We even had sex on my wedding night.
My wife and I have been together for five years and I’ve been sleeping with her sister for four of those years, including the day I got married.
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I’m 29 and my wife is 27. We have a little girl aged three. My sister-in-law is 25.
It began when all three of us had too much to drink. My wife passed out, so we helped her to bed then opened another bottle.
I love the woman who is now my wife but her sister is something else — curvy, sexy and cheeky. I’ve always fancied her.
She’d just had her 21st birthday and I said something about her being a “real grown-up now”.
She replied: “Try me.” When we kissed, it was electric. The sex was mind-blowing.
We had sex a couple more times over the following month and I was thinking I should end my relationship to be with this sister instead.
Then her sister, my girlfriend, had a positive pregnancy test and no way would she have considered an abortion.
I did the decent thing and asked her to marry me.
I told her sister we’d have to end our fling but the sex is so passionate we just couldn’t stop.
My wife was six months pregnant on our wedding day and went to bed at midnight after the reception.
I checked she was asleep in our room at the hotel then went along the corridor to her sister’s room, where we had our usual hot sex.
My wife is now pregnant with our second child.
I love her and I do feel guilty.
I tried to break with her sister but we ended up having sex again.
She knows I can’t resist her.
I can’t end our affair or stop thinking about her.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You have managed to hide your affair for years but one day inevitably something will go wrong – a message will get intercepted, for example – and so many people will be so unhappy: You, your wife, your children, your families, even your lover.
You will so regret not acting now.
Perhaps your sister-in-law feels she is getting one over her older sister but she is holding herself back from developing a committed relationship herself while she focuses instead on your secret affair.
Of course you can resist her.
Tell her your affair must end now – for everyone’s sake, including hers.
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Meet her somewhere public where you can’t be tempted to end the conversation in bed.
Be kind and polite (you don’t want her yearning for revenge) but firm.
Say you are going to block her to reinforce the willpower for both of you.
Then channel your energies into your marriage and your family.
They deserve 100 per cent from you.
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